There are seasons when your life gets softer

Not because you manifested it, but because you no longer have the energy to live on resistance

I’ve realized that softness in woman and motherhood come when you are so over rejection, disappointment and chaos that you turn a blind eye to the frequency of it all .

I noticed myself walk on eggshells. Translating my feelings into something easier to swallow.

Tension became information. Avoidence became instinct.

I developed a severe aversion to anything that seemed to have a lack of love for me. Even my own self neglect.

So here’s a question for the comments. What would change in your life if you decided to trust your discomfort the first time? Oh and here’s another What does trusting discomfort look like for you?

In my case, I stopped showing up…

And to my surprise, the world kept spinning.

Choosing myself didn’t  collapse my life.

It clarified it.

I stayed home when my nervous system wasn’t regulated & I turned my phone off when I was overstimulated. I took walks post panic attack & self soothed. Like an eagle, I focused on my well-being and distance myself from anyone and anything that disrupted my equilibrium.

Now, it’s the last Sunday of the year and because I choose me, I’m ending it with a smile on my face, delicious ramen in my belly, a good book and 3 sleeping babies curled up next to me. Focusing only on the softness in this exact moment I can truly say I love it here.

💌 So here’s your invitation:

If you’ve been craving connection, sisterhood, and space to just be…you belong here.

Join The Mother’s Circle, my free community for moms who are healing, growing, and softening together. You’ll find love notes like this, cozy meditations by me, seasonal themes, and a circle of women who get it.

Because we’re not meant to mother in isolation.

We’re meant to mother in community.

Softly,

Lanae